Today long-distance relationships are nothing new, but they do carry their challenges. For many couples, one of the most pressing issues is sexual frustration. When the physical distance prevents you from being together, sexual intimacy is one of the first things to go. That is why this blog post offers valuable insights, practical tips, and relevant examples to help you and your partner navigate sexual frustration and maintain a strong relationship. Understanding sexual frustration in long-distance relationships Sexual frustration is the result of reduced physical intimacy, a cornerstone of all long-distance relationships. It is important to recognize these feelings and understand that they are a proper response to separation. Failure to do so can lead to much more significant problems. In addition, many people experience a decreased level of sexual satisfaction in long-distance relationships as well. This altered emotional state may result in anxiety or stress that may affect other areas of life. Recognizing and processing these emotions is essential to their resolution. The first step in managing sexual frustration is to discuss it openly with your partner. You should be honest in expressing your desire for intimacy and concern regarding your romantic relationship. Doing so will aid you in locating a solution and recreating the closeness of the times when you were much closer. The significance of communication is a necessary element of maintaining and managing any sexual or emotional distance. These include frequent video conferencing to develop a sense of intimacy, as frequently seeing one another’s faces and hearing one another’s voices may make the separation less daunting.
They can also be an incredibly useful tool for text messages to maintain sexual intimacy. Sending your partner flirty or romantic texts will ensure they know you are still thinking of them.
Using Tech to Keep in Touch
Nowadays technology is right here to connect both of you, and we all are living this digital world. Talk face-to-face regularly via video calling platforms like Skype or Zoom. These can be scheduled calls, and can even include a mini date night making you feel more connected.
When it comes to LDRs there are apps out there made specifically for long-distance couples so check them out. For the romance and passion in your relationship, these tools- from shared calendars to virtual date nights can come in handy as between all this distance, you would want to keep that sparkle alive.
Embracing virtual reality (VR) as a means for passionate fun between partners is also catching fire. Sure, its very early days for VR, but some potential is there in the future of LDRs.
Exploring Phone and Video Sex
Phone sex and video sex is one of the best ways to control sexual frustration. I know it seems strange at first, but this is a genuinely effective method to keep sexual intimacy alive in a heterogamous relationship.
Create a comfy environment… or light up some candles, put on some soft music, and just make sure you are in a private space where nobody or nothing will interrupt you. No one is in the room with you, so it can be a more intimate experience and less uncomfortable.
Open up about your fantasies and desires. It will also help you feel more of a connection and even make both of you happier as well. Also, keep in mind that you want to savor the moment and connect more deeply with one another as well.
ATP: The Importance of Sexting and Erotic Messages
And sexting and sending erotic messages never get old; they can help you have fun whilst reduces sufferings related to sexual frustration. It creates excitement and maintains the sexual tension between you and your spouse.
Send some flirtatious messages to test your partners nterest. With time you could advance to more explicit content as both of you feel freer. The most important aspect is making sure both parties are willing and having a good time.
Pictures or clips, too, of course will only stand to titillate a teensy bit more. If you do share explicit content, have that conversation about safe words, or at the very least discussing what is okay to be captured on camera beforehand.
Importance of Planning Visits
And, yes tech does help bridge the gap, but nothing beats having your partner physically present with you. This can help to mitigate some of the frustration around sex and give you both something to look forward to.
Time your visits to coincide with occasions, such as anniversaries or birthdays. This way you can celebrate together and make memories.
Use it wisely spending time doing activities you both enjoy together. Whether it be a romantic meal or weekend away, having well spent hours together can bring about increased bonding.
Venturing into Intimacy Products
Sex toys are a light-hearted and effective means to navigate sexual frustration in a long-distance relationships. You could keep the spark alive with these gadgets, from vibrators to remote-control toys.
Decide with your partner what gadgets you both will feel comfortable using There are many options out there, so you need to find something that suits both of you.
Given all these devices can add a level of excitement to video calls and make you feel like you are fully over there.
Sustaining the Emotional Link
Physical intimacy is also very important but, emotions have no alternative and it plays an important role in the long distance relationship. Talking about your thoughts, feelings and day to day experiences can keep your emotional connectedness intact.
Set up some virtual dates so you can enjoy things together such as a film night or cooking a meal. Then you can share the experience and feel connected to what is happening in each other’s daily lives.
You can always send each other little care packages, love letters etc. Doing things like these can go a long way in keeping that bond you first shared together, and communicate to your partner that they matter to you.
Trust and True Commitment
Trust and commitment are the key elements in any relationship, even more so in a long distance relationship. Creating a common safe space where both of you can be open and straightforward with each other is at the root of lying and honesty, it all comes down to trust.
Forward to the Next Step You’re looking at someone you click with really well over there. These things tend to reduce the strain that distance puts on a relationship, at least in as much as they keep your anxiety level down knowing you guys are making it work together.
By trusting each other and following through on commitments, you will find that feeling security and satisfaction in the relationship make a bigger difference to sexual frustration than the fear of infidelity ever did.
Seeking Professional Help
If you believe that sexual frustration is negatively affecting your relationships, consider seeking professional help. In these cases, counselors who specialize in relationship therapy can offer insight and solutions for dealing with common challenges.
It may be helpful to talk about your fears in therapy and brainstorm some positive outcomes. A therapist can help you learn to communicate with one another and get in touch with what each of you needs as well as develop communication skills to keep intimacy going.
You might also find that an Online Therapy option is ideal if you cannot see a therapist in person. However, it can be extremely helpful to utilize services like these to help you through your relationship bouts.
Knowing Your Partners Love Laguages
Understand your love languages: When you know the love languages of one another, it helps you expressing your love and affections in a way that they cherish the most. This will help satisfy their sexual frustration and make them feel heard and understood in the relationship.
Learn the love language of your partner. Knowing how your partner feels loved( be it through words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time or physical touch) can help you maintain familiarity.
By showing love in the way your partner understands, together you grow closer and frustration and anxiety are dialled down.
Forming a Powerful Support Group
Propper advises, “The most optimal relationships are built on a strong foundation of support. Emotional support comes from friends and family, while practical advice can be found in books or on the web.
Participate in online groups or forums for couples who live apart. These platforms are a vital level of insight and a helping hand from models in the same troubled waters help with the challenges.
Good support system highlighs your confidence also, you will be secure in your relationship which makes sexual frustration a minor issue.
Keeping the Romance Alive
It is true that it may be difficult to maintain the romance in LDR, but not impossible. The little acts of loving and touching can do wonders for keeping the romance alive in relationships.
Schedule surprise Zoom dinners or send each other out-of-the-blue packages. Even the small little things can let your partner feel adored and cherished.
Show them how much you love and appreciate them as often as possible. Though calls, text messages or letters(jeez long ago), keep your partner informed of their importance in your life and night times; it keeps the romance alive and frustration at bay.
Conclusion
Something that affects most people in long-distance relationships is sexual confidence frustration, but it does not have to be the end. You can stay close and in-tune with your relationship partner by recognizing and working through these feelings. Leveraging technology, opening up and finding ways to stay in touch as well as trying to spend real time together are some tips that can help. To manage sexual frustration, remember to maintain a connection to both your partner (share lovey-dovey time if they are bewildered) and reconnect with the sensational experience.
And if you are needing extra support or guidance, feel free to schedule a session with me. A strong support system and knowing what each other needs can help. By making your partner feel special with small acts of love and romance, you can also ensure that distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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